EFT and Removing Resentment and Anger
Towards my Dad.
While doing a personal peace procedure many years ago I came across much anger towards my father, lets call him dad that's what he was, my dad.
Many people have deep emotional problems with their parents much anger resentment and misunderstanding. It is not surprising kids are learning about the world, know nothing and are totally selfish and parents are usually the one who help us to learn and are also the ones who punish us.
As children do not possess the maturity or insight and often misunderstanding occur. I had been using a very powerful self hypnosis recording "Understanding Parents" in order to help me clear parental, religious, social, educational and self programming and during this had uncovered much that needed to be sorted out so that I could enjoy my parents and reduce the emotional problems I was having.
I did not want to just remove it, I needed to understand it. EFT is great at taking away emotional pain however in this case I also wanted insight so that I could become a better therapist and get greater insight into my clients and help them faster, it may also help me to be a better parent.
I had felt anger and resentment towards dad because looking back I could not remember him ever coming to a sports day, school play or christmas concert and dads should do that to show they care and we are loved. (What idiot thought that one up.) Down the years this had caused many personal problems between us and I had decided to sort it out,
Dad and I sat down and I explained what I would like his help to do and he agreed to help. I explained my anger and resentment and all the pain that I had felt down the years, how it had effected my live and that as I wanted us to become closer, would he please help me.
I needed to know why he did it. Remember what I said earlier about kids being selfish, it looks like my inner kid was doing it again. Notice how all this was only about me.
Dad listened and I could see it upset him to discover this is how I had been feeling, however. I was about to discover that he was a bigger man than I had ever given him credit for.
It turned out that all the times I felt rejected and uncared for he had been working, building a business so that he could provide the food, cloths, toys, holidays and the roof over my head.
As a child with no idea of what life was about I knew nothing of this. As a child I had been totally ignorant of this as all children are.
It was a misunderstanding on my part, when we do a “personal peace procedure” or any kind of change work we often have much emotional baggage to dump and that is a good thing.
I apologised to dad for the feelings I had felt towards him and he just smiled. Mum who had been listening to all this asked "if I wanted a cup of tea and did I want to go out side and have a fag with her ?" I did.
Outside we talked and drank our tea and I asked if she would help me to understand and remove some of the stuff I carried towards her. She asked me if I knew what she was doing the day after I was born?
I didn't and felt that some new learnings were on the way.
"I was mixing muck and labouring for your dad who was building an extension on the house, for you.”
I am really glad Garry Graig was switched on enough to include in EFT.
Love accept and forgive myself”