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Self Defence.

It is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you will not be imperiled in a hundred battles; if you do not know your enemies but do know yourself, you will win one and lose one; if you do not know your enemies nor yourself, you will be imperiled in every single battle. Sun Tzu The Art of War.

You may have found this page because you are interested in real self-defence in the world. You may be a martial artist. You may be looking for some fast, killer techniques to stop or drop an opponent instantly.

Someone who will badly hurt you, if you don't drop them fast. Well, you have found them. But it's not what you think. In the real world, you can't do these kinds of things. You may well get put away or if you don't lose everything due to the legal costs.

Unless you master these techniques, the most lethal person you will ever meet will attack and hurt and emotionally cripple you every day. They are pretty close.

I am a reasonably good martial artist, been in the game for over fifty years and have a few useful skills under my belt when I can be bothered to put one on. In all those years I have in normal life used physical skills a few times.

Unless you go deliberately into places of trouble or places where you know stuff is likely to happen, or you have chosen to earn money through controlled aggression and violence, your chances of being physically attacked are slim.

It can happen and learning how to become aware of a threat and neutralise are useful skills and worth the time, effort, money and life force to learn. It then takes a lot more to master them.

Along the way, you will become, healthier, flexible, fitter, stronger and develop many skills that will cross over outside the training hall. Martial artist tends to be more robust than most.

You will also increase your chances of survival if you become ill, and you will also learn a lot about people and most importantly learn about your self. So keep doing it.

I started to look at the reality of the situation a few years ago and realised that I needed to apply my reality checker to what I was doing and practising. I realised that I had been vicious, repeatedly and violently attacked, and often with little provocation tens of thousands of times from only a few sources.

Maybe I should be spending my time learning to deal with common damaging attacks. Ones that posed a danger to my physical, mental, emotional, energetic, psychological and financial existence and were a real threat to my happiness.
It made sense to me.

I realised a few things that if you think about them for a while, may make some sense to you as well. I fired off a transderivational search to my subconscious mind.

"If I was to become aware of where the real dangers and sources are, what could they be?" The answers quickly came back.

"People who are close to you." I realised that family, friends and loved ones, people I love, and who said they loved me, were the most significant source of emotional pain and suffering. The closer they were to me the more they had hurt or crippled me. I made a note of that.

Who is hurting me the most and causing me the most damage, that's the one I have to deal with first, who is it?

Not a surprise as many years ago I had realised that I beat myself up and was more vicious to my self than anyone else. My own emotions, what I felt caused me the most pain, what I said to myself and the habits and beliefs I had chosen. Think about it for a while where has your most pain come from?

Maybe that’s the area you should be learning real self-defence. It can be an eye-opener.

When you understand yourself, how you are, why you do what you do, what drives you, it gives you a better angle on other people. However, don't assume that others think and feel as you do, and have the same rules, it just gives you an advantage.

You will have to study much to have more than an advantage, vampires, werewolves and raptors are real they will take you out without a second thought.

When you love yourself and do what is best for you when your internal dialogue supports you. When you are at cause instead of effect and take active responsibility for your emotions and understand what love means.

You will find people who are close to you will hurt you less and you will cut them less, and the quality of your relationships will improve, as long as you are very honest with yourself. When you learn to understand your self and develop the "skills to be nice to you."

You discover that low self-esteem, low confidence, self-respect problems, guilt, fear, worry, anxiety, stress, self-sabotage and self-injury, mood swings, and emotional insecurity seem to have little effect on you.

You don't have to work as hard to keep yourself in reasonable health. You enjoy your training and practice and mastery in whatever your art is.

You relax more, sleep better, remember your muscles grow, and your skills develop when you are resting. Learning deep, profound relaxation will allow you to heal faster and better.

I guess real sturdy, and effective personal self-defence all boils down to awareness, self-awareness and self-honesty.

You can learn to minimise real-life attacks, and you can learn to have effective armour, weapons and tools of offence and defence, you can learn to block, avoid, parry, evade and deflect and neutralise an opponent and when to fight and when to run.

You are going to have to work at it and let go of much that you were taught and believed, and after all that, others will still attack you and sometimes by yourself. When it happens you deal with it and grow and smile.

But along the way you will be happier, healthier and wealthier, you will have quality meaningful relationships, of a quality you never thought possible, you will learn to love and be loved honestly.

Fewer things in life will bother you and stress, fear, anxiety, worry and many other problems that you may have in life will dissolve. You will also become a better martial artist. You will have fought your hardest battle, defeated your greatest opponent and inoculated against the most vicious attacker you ever faced.
Just a thought.